I couldn’t think of a better day than today to post this…Happy St. Patrick’s Day! For some it’s about wearing green and chugging green beer. For others…well let’s be honest, this is pretty much everyone in America today (including myself)! Slainte!
I wanted to talk about luck today, because I truly believe that you make your own luck. Coming from a person who has had her fair share of bad luck in the past…I thought it would always follow me.
But it didn’t follow me, because I wouldn’t let it.
Over the past year, my life has changed a lot. I married the absolute love of my life, said Bye Felicia to my old life of nonstop stress and bullshit, and am currently forging a new path with guns ablazin’ and no f**ks given.
Although my new attitude has been shocking to some, I’ve had a lot of people tell me I’ve inspired them to make changes in their own life and kick major ass. It’s up to YOU to live your best life.
After reflecting on my journey, I’ve come up with a few go-to steps that I followed that got me to where I am now.
1. First and foremost, you can’t give a single shit about what anyone else thinks of you, your goals or your dreams.
Let’s get real for a sec. People are going to talk shit about you whether you are doing bad or good (cue Rihanna song).
This is probably the hardest thing to do, because we are hardwired to constantly care about what people think of us. But why? The people who judge you aren’t really your friends or a good influence in your life. Do their opinions pay any of your bills? Nah, I didn’t think so.
I’m not saying go out into the world and be an a-hole. I’m saying to stop giving other people your power.
Two things have helped me to achieve this mindset. My husband is my first inspiration, because he is literally the king of not caring about what people think. It’s a quality that I admire the hell out of…but it’s taken me a bit to adapt to this way of thinking. And it doesn’t happen overnight, so don’t be discouraged if you find yourself struggling a bit at first.
The next thing is this book I found called:
The title speaks for itself…it’s hilarious but also a useful tool in changing your perspective. Just buy it.
I promise you…once you truly do not care about other’s opinions of you…the freedom you experience is out of this world. And you know what? Luck is ALWAYS on your side.
2. Tell the universe what you want, and be prepared to get it.
Literally, everything is out there for your taking. Think about one of your heroes. Do you think they got to where they are now, just by being born? Nope. I would say 99 percent of great people on this earth have struggled their way through life but never gave up.
I know this sounds funny, but you have to declare what you want and speak it through your actions to the world.
I was committed to going to graduate school and I worked my tail off on my application, studied like crazy for the GRE and every morning I woke up and said “I’m going to graduate school.” I told my dogs, I told my goats, I told my horses. They didn’t have much response unless I had food in my hand…but oh well.
You must believe that everything you want is available to you, and then commit yourself to it. For instance, I was so set on graduate school that I had already began to plan my course schedule before I was accepted. I planned what super cute outfits I would wear again (what girl wouldn’t do this??) I envisioned what the next two years of my life were going to look like. I was writing my own destiny.
3. Take the risk, make the leap, do your thang.
So once you have a no f***ks given attitude, you’ve told the world that you’re coming to conquer…it’s time to do just that, CONQUER.
One thing to remember here: When taking great leaps forward, life often turns to shit before it gets better.
I remember when I quit my job I knew I was doing the right thing, but I went home and drank a bottle of wine and ate an entire bag of Cheetos (the puffs not the crunchy kind)
I had a small pity party, had a “I Don’t Know What I’m Doing With My Life Anymore” talk with myself, started playing my harmonica again…
Moral of the story–it’s not going to be easy and you’ll have your moments of not being a badass.
But you’ll get over it. And your husband or house cat will rip that bottle of Yellow Tail out of your hand and demand you to shower. You will be a gangsta once again, my friend.
4. Be proud and love yourself.
Perhaps this is the most important thing you will ever do in your life. To love yourself. Be proud of yourself and how far you’ve come. We tend to invest everything we’ve got into believing we aren’t good enough.
“Our thoughts become words, our words our beliefs, beliefs our actions, actions become habits, habits become a reality.”
Feed yourself positive thoughts instead of negative ones…you’re life will change drastically.
And remember the people around you who always have your back! Lean on them. Talk to them. Get beers with them. They will remind you just how awesome you are, and that you deserve to be happy!
So, go forth and make your own luck.
You’ll thank yourself when you’re older.